What makes you feel like you belong? How do you find a sense of belonging when you're an outsider? Do you need people who are close to you to belong? In this podcast, Emily Conway and Julia Rymut explore the ways they have searched for belonging.
Enjoyed the discussion. I have been thinking/sensing/feeling about this rich topic as well. I just finished toko-pa turner’s book “belonging”. Agree at its essence , belonging is the ability to belong to oneself.
Hi Jacalyn, that's a great book. It helped me to navigate some really difficult dynamics with the family I grew up in. And, yes, belonging is belonging to yourself, and that work is lifelong.
Thank you, Jacalyn. I haven't read that book. I have a hold on that book at the library. We'll have to have a mini-book club chat after I read it!
I just heard an interesting discussion about expectations. The speaker was talking about how so many of our disappointments are because we have an expectation that differs from reality. It made me think about belonging. Perhaps the times we feel we don't belong is because we're expecting things to be different than they are. If this is true, then belonging really is just an inner state, unrelated to our outer circumstances.
.... and then I started to think about my mother and wondering if my disconnect from her was because I expected her to be different than she was. That was a deep, dark rabbit hole so I changed my mind-subject!! 🤣😂
I love this Julia. I agree! I do think that we have expectations that influence our experience of belonging. I also think that our minds and hearts expend a lot of energy not accepting what is because it's painful, scary, etc. When we can see our expectations, we can begin to see what we aren't accepting, work on being with that, and then also, work on belonging (mostly to ourselves).
Enjoyed the discussion. I have been thinking/sensing/feeling about this rich topic as well. I just finished toko-pa turner’s book “belonging”. Agree at its essence , belonging is the ability to belong to oneself.
Hi Jacalyn, that's a great book. It helped me to navigate some really difficult dynamics with the family I grew up in. And, yes, belonging is belonging to yourself, and that work is lifelong.
Thank you, Jacalyn. I haven't read that book. I have a hold on that book at the library. We'll have to have a mini-book club chat after I read it!
I just heard an interesting discussion about expectations. The speaker was talking about how so many of our disappointments are because we have an expectation that differs from reality. It made me think about belonging. Perhaps the times we feel we don't belong is because we're expecting things to be different than they are. If this is true, then belonging really is just an inner state, unrelated to our outer circumstances.
.... and then I started to think about my mother and wondering if my disconnect from her was because I expected her to be different than she was. That was a deep, dark rabbit hole so I changed my mind-subject!! 🤣😂
I love this Julia. I agree! I do think that we have expectations that influence our experience of belonging. I also think that our minds and hearts expend a lot of energy not accepting what is because it's painful, scary, etc. When we can see our expectations, we can begin to see what we aren't accepting, work on being with that, and then also, work on belonging (mostly to ourselves).
I'm so glad I'm in a podcast with you. ❤️
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