I run in a lot of circles that would advise you to “speak from your heart”. On the surface, this seems like good advice.
But over the years, I had experiences when people “spoke from their heart” in an unkind, brutal way. Basically, they weaponized their truth against someone.
The tension between wanting to honor everyone’s heart-felt truth, and seeing how meanly it can be delivered, led me to examine what it actually means to speak from the heart.
And I think there’s a lot of confusion.
In this episode of Threshold, my cohost, Emily Conway, and I explored what is speaking-from-the-heart, what it feels like, and how to tell if you’re being heart centered or ego driven.
Some of the other insights from our talk:
[00:02:30] “Is that your problem or theirs?”
[00:04:30] “Ego disguises itself as heartbreak”
[00:09:00] “Wait 10 minutes… or a couple of days.”
[00:14:30] “Let yourself be surprised by the truth.”
[00:19:30] “Practice in a safe space that doesn’t have charge.”
How do you know if you’re speaking in a heart-felt way? What are your markers? How do you get to that place? Leave a comment below.
Next week: Belonging
Where do you feel most at home, like yourself? In nature, with your family, friends, alone?
As humans, we’re wired for belonging, but so much impedes that need. And when we find ourselves in liminal space, we may also find that the ways we’ve found belonging in the past don’t work anymore or just don’t exist. What then?
Join
and myself on Monday June 16 at 11am CT for this discussion on belonging and how to find it.
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